Understanding yourself

What is said, and what is underneath.

Studies of the sentences people offer long before they can name what is happening. Starting points for reading, never a diagnosis.

28 studies in Relationships and family · Page 2 of 2 · Show every study

Paper artwork: Jannat standing apart from relatives at an Eid gathering in an Elephant Road flat

N° 25

Family pressure to marry

“Every dawat, the same question about my biye.”

When every family gathering turns into a question about marriage, the pressure can become anxiety. You can protect your peace without cutting off family.

Paper artwork: an old wooden almirah with its doors ajar on a patterned tile floor in a high-ceilinged room

N° 26

Family conflict after a parent's death

“Abba’s flat. Four siblings. Nobody speaks now.”

A parent’s death can split siblings over property and old wounds. The grief underneath often needs as much attention as the dispute.

Paper artwork: a plate of khichuri and stacking toy rings on a mat, lit by a tablet screen

N° 27

Screens and young children

“He won’t eat a bite without cartoons.”

When a toddler will only eat in front of a screen, the whole family feels it. What the guidelines say, and how to make changes gently.

Paper artwork: two threads, red and blue, tangled into a knot

N° 28

Relationship OCD

“I love him. But what if I don’t?”

Endless doubt about whether you love your partner, or whether they are right for you, can be a form of OCD. Checking makes it louder.