Understanding yourself

What is said, and what is underneath.

Studies of the sentences people offer long before they can name what is happening. Starting points for reading, never a diagnosis.

Conceptual paper artwork: Two cut-paper house plans meet at a misaligned seam, a narrow shadow between.

N° 01

Relationship difficulties

“We always have the same argument.”

Different people, different years, and somehow the same place again.

Conceptual paper artwork: Dinner plate, cricket ball beyond its rim, exam papers spaced at a distance.

N° 02

Adolescent mental health

“They barely talk to us any more.”

Some distance is part of growing up. Sometimes it is a young person carrying something alone.

Conceptual paper artwork: Charcoal studio drawing under tracing paper; lifted corner admits a plane of light.

N° 03

Schizophrenia and psychosis

“He says the neighbours are listening.”

For families, the first signs are frightening and confusing. Earlier treatment is linked to better outcomes.

Conceptual paper artwork: Small folded baby blanket in warm light; distant camera-flash rectangles fade into ivory.

N° 04

Postpartum depression

“Everyone says I should be happy.”

Depression after childbirth is common in Bangladesh and treatable. It is not a failure of love.

Conceptual paper artwork: Two porcelain cups on shared cloth, their waterlines subtly out of alignment.

N° 05

Sexual dysfunction

“We don’t talk about that part.”

Sexual problems are common, often have medical causes, and are treated in confidence.

Conceptual paper artwork: Closed apartment door above a small ivory toy boat caught in threshold-loop geometry.

N° 06

Family and parenting

“We’ve tried everything with him.”

When a family is stuck in the same fights, help for the whole family, and for parents, is often part of the answer.

Conceptual paper artwork: Two blank film reels almost mesh; paper frames between them fade into open space.

N° 07

Couples and marriage

“We used to talk for hours.”

Before marriage, during it, or when it is under strain: counselling can help couples talk about what matters.

Conceptual paper artwork: Architectural floor plan folded into a loop, one narrow paper bridge extending outward.

N° 08

Caregiver stress

“I’m fine. Abba needs me more.”

Caring for an ill parent, partner or child is love in its hardest form. Carers need care too.

Conceptual paper artwork: Two small rickshaw-canopy panels fold apart above slate lake circle, joined by one stitch.

N° 09

Breakups and heartbreak

“We used to share fuchka at the lake every Friday.”

Heartbreak is real pain. Most people heal with time and friends; when it turns into depression or obsession, treatment helps.

Conceptual paper artwork: Brass contractor's square across blank phone on tracing paper, arms point to open margins.

N° 10

Delusional disorder

“She is seeing someone. I know it. I have proof.”

A fixed false belief, such as a partner’s infidelity, held with total certainty despite all evidence. Treatment protects everyone.

Conceptual paper artwork: Two uneven slate tiles stack; lower one quietly bears the upper's weight.

N° 11

Supporting a relative with psychosis

“My brother is ill, and nobody tells us what to do.”

Families carry much of the care for serious mental illness. Family work can help the patient and the people who love them.

Conceptual paper artwork: House key across two slightly misaligned floor plans; one doorway appears twice.

N° 12

Caring for a parent with dementia

“Ammu doesn’t know me some days. I still have to be there.”

Dementia care falls mostly on families. Support for carers can protect their health and improve care at home.

Conceptual paper artwork: Paper doorway stands gently ajar; loose silk ribbon rests across threshold.

N° 13

Vaginismus

“We’ve been married eight months. We still can’t.”

An involuntary tightening that makes intercourse painful or impossible. Common, rarely discussed, and treatable.

Conceptual paper artwork: Ceramic daal bowl at meeting of two woven runners, borders press without overlap.

N° 14

In-law conflict

“In my shashuri’s house, I can never do anything right.”

Joint family tension is part of many marriages in Bangladesh. When it wears down mood, sleep and the marriage, it deserves care.

Conceptual paper artwork: Fine jute-thread bridge from factory timecard toward warm home-window cutout.

N° 15

Helping someone who won’t seek help

“I can see he’s struggling. He refuses to see anyone.”

How to talk to someone you love about their mental health, and what to do when they say no.

Paper artwork: a brass tray of coloured glass churi and sweets, a pregnant woman resting by a doorway beyond

N° 16

Depression in pregnancy

“I’m seven months pregnant and I feel nothing.”

Depression during pregnancy is common in Bangladesh and often hidden behind the celebrations. It can be treated, with care for mother and baby.

Paper artwork: a folded kantha on an empty wooden chair by a rainy window

N° 17

Grief after miscarriage

“We hadn’t even told Ammu yet.”

Miscarriage is common and its grief is real, for both partners. Anxiety and post-traumatic stress can follow, and support helps.

Paper artwork: a baby bottle and car key on a kitchen counter under a single lamp at night

N° 18

Depression in new fathers

“Everyone asks about the baby. No one asks me.”

About one in ten fathers becomes depressed around the birth of a child. It is often missed, and it often travels with the mother’s mood too.

Paper artwork: a brass bowl and marigold garlands on a rooftop ledge at dusk, city lights beyond

N° 19

Divorce and separation

“Talak is one word. The family has a thousand more.”

The end of a marriage is a loss, a move and a public story at once. Most people recover; some need help with the weight of it.

Paper artwork: a school backpack, cricket bat and ball between two apartment doors in morning light

N° 20

Children and divorce

“Weekdays at Ammu’s, Fridays at Abbu’s.”

Children whose parents separate are at somewhat higher risk of depression and anxiety. Keeping them out of the conflict between parents helps.

Paper artwork: a phone face down on a bedside table beside a glass of water and reading glasses

N° 21

After an affair

“I read the messages at two in the morning.”

Discovering an affair can bring shock, sleeplessness and depression. Couples therapy improves relationship satisfaction for many couples.

Paper artwork: A mother and daughter in Jatrabari looking at a child’s drawing of a father far away

N° 22

Living apart: migrant workers' families

“He calls from Riyadh every night. We have nothing left to say.”

When a husband works abroad, the wife at home carries the household, the in-laws and the loneliness. Her mental health deserves attention too.

Paper artwork: A scorched cooking pan and wooden spoon after a first monsoon attempt at bhuna

N° 23

The first year of marriage

“We’d met four times before the wedding.”

The first year joins two people and two families. Arguments are normal; learning to repair them is a skill that can be taught.

Paper artwork: a red wedding card and a folded medical file on a table

N° 24

Infertility and emotional distress

“At every biye, someone asks: any good news?”

Infertility brings grief, pressure and questions at every family event. In Bangladeshi studies, more than half of women in treatment had depression symptoms.